Scary Good: How Community Conflicts Strengthen Bonds
Although companies generally try to avoid conflicts, any brand community with loyal members is actually driven by an undercurrent of conflict. Members become loyal to a community because of a clear set of distinctions that separates them from others.
The sense of belonging, the notion, the belief gets strengthened—and that can lead to conflict between communities.
In fact, the rules separating in-group and out-group don't only apply to non-community members. There can be groups of community members with a strong tendency to showcase their distinctiveness inside the community. This also leads to conflicts between members of the same community.
Understanding community conflict—and learning to harness it productively—is essential for community managers.
Why Conflicts Happen
Because of intrinsic human psychology, the web is filled with frictions and disagreements. Here's a telling statistic: On Reddit, only 1% of subreddits start 74% of the conflicts between subreddits.
We participate in conflicts, sometimes we cringe and avoid, but we experience this quite often. Here are the most common causes:
Differences in Belief
This is probably the most common root cause. Completely believing in something can cloud judgment and lead to conflict with those who have different or opposite beliefs.
Privileges
Members who have been part of the community for a long time and enjoy special privileges or powers might get into differences with other members.
Misunderstanding
It's easy to misunderstand something because of cultural barriers or lack of knowledge of other languages. This can incite conflicts.
Disorganization
In a community where there's a lack of clear guidelines, structure, and organization, certain members can become confrontational to both other members and out-groups.
Lack of Pluralism
When a community practices monism and diversity remains an alien concept, acceptance for others' views diminishes and members can easily turn hostile to others.
Private Matters
Certain emotions get triggered because of personal issues and past experiences—anything from money and kids to health and family.
Famous Examples of Community Conflicts
Chick-fil-A vs. Popeyes
Some connect with the overall theme—light-hearted vs. dark. Others compare similar characters: Dr. Fate vs. Dr. Strange, Deadpool vs. Deathstroke. The competition keeps both communities engaged and passionate.
PlayStation vs. Xbox
PS4 and Xbox One are two rival camps that need die-hard gaming fans to sign up as foot soldiers in a war raged on internet forums and comment threads. This has been the norm between two gaming platforms for years.
Community members list reasons for their platform choice—community, controller, online infrastructure—and defend their decisions passionately.
Cayenne in the Porsche Community
This example shows conflict inside a community. When Porsche launched the Cayenne SUV in 2002, loyal users of 911 models declined to accept it as a "real" Porsche.
They made a point that it lacked racing heritage and named Cayenne drivers as "soccer moms who could not comprehend the brand's philosophy."
Die-hard Porsche fans even denied Cayenne owners entry on rennlist.com, a site created as a discussion forum for Porsche enthusiasts.
The company tried to smooth things out with a TV ad positioning Cayenne as an authentic family member. The community didn't subscribe: "Projecting the Cayenne as a race car was a stretch that only delusional Porsche marketers could possibly attempt."
The Productive Side of Conflict
Conflict Strengthens Identity
When members defend their community against outsiders (or even internal factions), they clarify what they stand for. This strengthens commitment and belonging.
Conflict Drives Engagement
Passionate debates keep communities active. Members who feel strongly enough to argue are members who care.
Conflict Creates Content
Debates, discussions, and disagreements generate content that attracts attention and keeps communities vibrant.
Conflict Reveals Values
How a community handles conflict reveals its true values. Communities that navigate conflict well build trust.
Managing Community Conflicts Productively
Don't Try to Eliminate All Conflict
Rival tribes don't co-exist peacefully, and there's no point trying to unite them. Brand communities grow stronger by making distinctions more vivid, not by wiping them out.
Set Clear Guidelines
Establish rules about acceptable behavior in conflicts. The goal isn't preventing disagreement—it's ensuring disagreements remain respectful and productive.
Address Personal Attacks Quickly
Distinguish between passionate debate about ideas and personal attacks on individuals. The former is healthy; the latter destroys communities.
Create Spaces for Debate
Dedicated spaces for controversial topics keep heated discussions from spilling into other community areas.
Model Good Conflict Behavior
Community managers and moderators should demonstrate how to disagree respectfully. Acknowledge valid points in opposing views while maintaining your position.
Let the Community Self-Moderate
Empowered community members often manage conflicts better than top-down moderation. Trust your members to call out bad behavior.
When Conflict Becomes Toxic
Not all conflict is productive. Watch for signs that conflict has become destructive:
- Personal attacks replace debate about ideas
- Harassment of specific members
- Pile-on behavior where groups target individuals
- Bad-faith participation from trolls or bad actors
- Exit of valuable members who no longer feel safe
When conflict turns toxic, swift moderation action is necessary to protect the community.
Conclusion
Conflict isn't something to fear in communities—it's something to understand and channel productively. The most vibrant communities often have the most passionate disagreements.
We need to understand that rival tribes simply don't co-exist and there's no point in trying to unite them. Brand communities grow stronger by making the distinction more vivid, not by wiping them out.
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FAQs
Should we discourage all conflict in our community?
No. Healthy debate and passionate disagreement keep communities vibrant and help members clarify their identities. The goal is channeling conflict productively, not eliminating it.
How do we distinguish healthy conflict from toxic conflict?
Healthy conflict focuses on ideas, respects individuals, and follows community guidelines. Toxic conflict involves personal attacks, harassment, and bad-faith participation. The line is usually clear when you look at behavior rather than intensity of disagreement.
What if conflict between community factions is hurting engagement?
Create clear spaces for each faction. Let subgroups have their own discussions while maintaining shared spaces for common ground. Sometimes separation reduces friction while preserving overall community health.
How do we handle conflicts about our own product or company?
Treat criticism as valuable feedback. Engage respectfully, acknowledge valid concerns, and show how you're addressing issues. Handling conflict about your own brand well builds more trust than avoiding it.
